Spend the money to get a good photo taken.
I recommended he visit a professional photographer and then ask his friends and family to choose the best picture. That took the weight of the decision off his shoulders. He was slim and mature and I told him he had nothing to worry about. He still wasn't happy about it.
When I look at pictures of myself, I hate the chipmunk cheeks, the double chin, the huge honking nose -- everything. Many of us are our worst critics. Here are some rationales to rebut the fault finder:
- Do not use an outdated photo when you were younger and prettier. When people see you in real life they'll be struck at how much older you've gotten.
- Go ahead and get a picture taken when you're heavier than usual. Chances are you'll get more fit and when people see you they'll be impressed that you look better.
- Dress the way you usually do at work. Over the last 10 years I have visited a lot of law firms and casual dress is the norm today. When I do see a man in a suit and tie, it appears that the guy is trying too hard.
- Ladies, wear something that flatters you. Do not wear tight or stretchy clothes unless you're a runner or someone in their 20s. If you have to ask your man whether the outfit makes you look fat -- it does.
- Don't make a giant grin if it turns your face big and round. Try a Mona Lisa smile instead.
- If you have a double chin, position yourself so that you look up at the camera. This pulls your neck skin tighter.
- Should you have an eagle beak, look straight into the camera. Singer Joan Baez used this technique successfully.
- Wrinkles are OK in my book. Even kids nowadays appreciate the look of experience.
If there is something about your appearance that troubles you, then spend the money to pay a professional who knows how to make people look good. Lighting and angles make all the difference. Photography is digital nowadays, and a pro will edit out your moles and splotches.
I'll let you know how this works out for me.